How To Deal With Criticism
Lately l have had to deal with more criticism than usual. I am not sure if it is because people are just becoming more aware of my work but whatever the case maybe, l thought l would share with you how l deal with it.
Criticism always makes my heart race, l find it hard to hear sometimes but l have learned to know the difference between destructive and constructive criticism.
You have to know where the feedback is coming from and understand the intentions of the person who is giving it to you. I also think that it is important that you accept that you are not perfect, no one is. This is a great way to deal with criticism, every person has flaws. I have also had to learn to not take it personally. If the criticism is constructive, then it’s intended to guide you and help you improve as a person, not bring you down and make you feel inadequate.
Recently this has happened to me. I felt inadequate and it took me a few days to realize that I need to work on being less sensitive. I just controlled my emotions and focused my energy on practicing what l was being criticized on. It’s important to understand what you are really being told. Sometimes, it’s hard to break down the message and start figuring out what to do next, because you are so focused on the hurtful aspect of the feedback and let’s be honest it’s easy to wound our pride. But it’s important to be determined and see if there is some truth to the feedback you were given.
If there is truth to it, then it is important to thank the person for being honest, but only if they are being kind about it. If the person was kind and honest then take the time to thank them, it’s a sign of maturity. This has made me a better person for being able to take it on the chin, as well as being appreciative of constructive honesty. Be careful with the destructive criticism. You need to understand the person’s true motives. If you have recognized the criticism is completely destructive and hurtful, then you need to think about why the person might have said what they did to hurt you. It could be jealousy, maybe they were in a bad mood, it’s not an excuse for their words to sting you, but l tend to put myself in their shoes, l try to be the bigger person and find the underlying message. It’s hard but l try to stay confident, positive and maintain self-worth. I just try to accept the things that l can’t change and figure out what l can do to enhance as a person and refine my work. I think it is also important to hang out with people who make you feel good about yourself but at the same time are able to be honest with you and not in a hurtful way. If the criticism has no point whatsoever, then the best thing to do is to ignore it. Don’t feel bad if you are not able to push all the negative feedback aside right away. It takes practice to stop caring about what people think and just do what you love.
As for me, l do what l do, and post my work, not only because l have a passion for art, but to hopefully be an inspiration to others. I am learning and trying new things all the time. It is the beauty of not being perfect and l love that l can show that side of me, so that people can see that l have learning curves too. Stay positive and have a beautiful day.
Realistic Acrylic Artist in Kingston, Ontario
I picked up my first paint brush seriously when l was 24, although l remember my Mom encouraging me to paint at a young age, she obviously saw some potential that l didn’t. I took a few tole painting classes back in the day and l fell in love with how the paint glided and l felt such satisfaction when l completed a project, I was hooked! For years l painted on just about anything, wood, plastic, glass and l loved everything about the creative process and experimenting with different mediums. I practiced and practiced. I then decided in my 40’s that painting was not just a hobby anymore, l began seriously thinking of becoming a full-time artist and hopefully inspire people. I have been working hard at it, trying to make my dream come true.
In 2014, l decided that l needed to learn how to draw if l was going to expand my love of painting realism. With so many great art tutorials on the internet and my lack of time to take classes outside my home, l took classes on line. Drawing and Painting courses-The Virtual Instructor, is a great online site. http://thevirtualinstructor.com.
I am a determined individual and l for sure benefited from all the late nights of trying to draw accurately, learning my values, highlighting and shading. I’m not the best out there, that’s for sure, but l am passionate about learning and trying to better this skill.
With the exception of a workshop class, I am a self-taught artist.
Being a Mom of two incredible young men, l always hoped that l would be an inspiration to them and show them“where there's a will there's a way”. I have also learned that you can’t take criticism to seriously. Everyone has an opinion but it might not always be one you want to hear. You just have to know when to ignore or learn from harsh criticism, stay committed and continue doing what you love.
I have also figured out that you can be the best artist out there, but if you can’t market yourself and put yourself out there for all to see, then your art just isn’t going to be spotted. There is a copious amount of amazing art out there and it is hard to stand out. Learning marketing skills, being yourself, and staying true to yourself, is probably the best advice l have ever received and exercised. If you have followed my progress, then l hope it shows how hard l have tried to evoke emotion in my work, and how hard l try to put myself out there.
I really couldn’t continue to do what l love if it wasn’t for the support of such amazing people who have supported me, and my work. I thank you all for your kind words as it gives me the will power to continue my creative obsession with positive vibes and enthusiasm.
Have a Beautiful Day!
I am hoping that l can be inspirational and informative. I feel that paying it forward is a great way to live.